Nigerian Lady Reveals Why She Is Scared Of Getting Married…

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   The person is still dreaming, counting all those things as excuse doesnt add up.

   That’s me

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   And you already assume you will suffer even before getting married. Ok. ‍♂️

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   She didn’t lie na..
   I’m a nurse, but I’ve become a shadow of my former self since I gave birth, my salary is no longer enough
   Hmmm

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   Well, there is still the 30% that didn’t change.

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   Don’t generalize…
   Some people became better and more beautiful in marriage..
   Reason why you should marry a supportive partner… Married life is not easy by the way….

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   She’s not lying but what she’s not saying is after some year we find ourselves again and start to blossom. I am talking from experience.

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   You are absolutely correct

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   You aren’t entirely saying the truth.
   While being single they got money from tunde, Usman and chidi.
   But after marriage their real wage/ salary revealed itself..

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   That’s not it. It’s the added responsibilities. While she as a single girl can afford to order food as she’s returning from work all through the week, it’s not so as a married woman with children. While single, you can sleep till 6am, use 45minutes to get ready for work and be at work by 7:10am, it’s not so for the married lady. She will wake up way before that 6am, mind you she may have gone to bed by past midnight. Responsibilities are much leading to stress.

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   Another very valid point of view.

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   Man, and no easy oo!
   Taking care of children, home, husband and work no be child’s play.

   And have it in mind that some women stop taking care of themselves because dey have married, instead of maintaining their selves.

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    Everything e no easy oh.not easy for any human on earth.na your choice live with it.life was never easy since human ate the forbidden fruit.

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    Peoplw fail to underatnd that in life there is time and season.if you like don’t get married and have children, in thr nect 50 years that wig won’t be giving you zeal and all som curtains you will get tired of.
    If only humans tell the truth and are honest so others can genuinely learn

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    But there are those who put a high stake on their appearance. I told the story before of a woman who requested euthanasia instead of growing and losing her beauty, she had children too.

    Everyone sees life through their own eyes. I remember growing up and women looked haggard, some of them were only in their 40s and they looked a sight. I am so happy that today’s women upkeep themselves. I don’t ever want to see haggard looking women like that again. I do not consider myself vain, but as a child it was just wretched to see so many women who let themselves go simply because they were now married and had children.

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    She’s correct. Work – Life Balance very important then SELF care very important too

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    The pressure of being married and taking carr of kids takes a great toll on women especially when you dont have help but still have to work and still take care of the home front

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    Especially if they have some type of kids. Having children of good temperament who are a joy to be around is an understated blessing.

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    Probably the realities of Lagos people. Over here, na yanga go wan wound new wife ooo. She must represent her husband well for outside.

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    Honestly…it’s not easy at all…taking care of kids, home, husband and so on..
    But that doesn’t stop women from looking good…

    May God help us

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    She is right . Especially if you marry someone that is not financially okay.

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    Whether she gets married or not she’s gonna get old so?

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    Too many financially inadequate and unsupportive men are getting married to drain and burden women

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    Too many financially inadequate and unsupportive men are getting married to drain and burden women

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    No lie detected. My husband is as supportive as possible with money sha not chores so my salary is basically for me and my daughter yet it is not easy. I was with a divorced friend yesterday and i found out she is 2 years older than me but i look older than her.
    Don’t get me wrong, i am not saying that every divorced or single woman out there is looking younger than her age mates or that all the married ones are looking older, i just think that marriage comes with so much responsibilities that can be draining and stressing. It is not even about the money part, it is also about the fact that you can’t do most fun things that helps rejuvenate and de-stress you. I felt so care free and happy just hanging out with my girls yesterday but that is i only get to do once in a blue moon because my life is all about work, home, work rinse and repeat.
    Mehnnn, married life is not easy, make we leave talk.

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    her choice
    her thinking
    what about those ones that still look sexy?

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    Marriage will always change both men and women it is part of aging process

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    This just goes to tell you God is the greatest.the original plan was not for women to slaves emselves all in the name of career and all.
    But suddenly we live in a world where everyone wants to do one thing. Why would the toll not be on you as a woman? Shey you want to be independent..follow and pursue career and same time be a loving mother and have a home..its not easy so you uave to accept your struggles.its not easy for those doing well in career and also keeping their home fronts..its a cross they choose to bear and if they complain God won’t forgive em.
    The plan was for men to do all the catering and hustlng for the women while the women supports in her own way and unique strength but modern woman wants to wake up early..go to work…with all the mental stress and shouts and all and still come home to keep the family..autbu you go tire.

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    But women did do the stay at home thing for hundreds of thousands of years and it was no bed of roses. It was not as though the men found ways to make life easier for their wives, the women were having 8-10 kids on average, hauling water, planting their little farms, washing clothes for the entire family. They looked like hell. And I haven’t mentioned how rampant the domestic violence was. Only wealthy women had it easy, no other women.

    Being employed helps a woman not to be powerless in marriage. Having assets like land or other properties gives her the ability to take herself and children out of an abusive household with little impact to their standard of living. Plus, very few men today can carry a household comfortably solely on their income. Two working ppl also means a better retirement experience, as there is a significant portion of senior citizens who live in poverty.

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    Wrong mind set, What if you marry the right guy?

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    Where’s the Lie???

    The KOKO is to marry a Kind and Supportive Man…

    A woman’s Look after marriage and during Some Relationship is a Reflection of how her Man takes care of her.

    Some Women becomes excessively beautiful after Marriage because they got married to the Sweetest Soul while some becomes a shadow of themselves because they are married to the Devil’s Spawn

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    You just have tobfind a way an attach man to it..you amaze me.
    The poster didn’t mention man but you just have to find a way to make sure man has an effect to that.

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    Very wrong information and conclusion. Everything in life,is about risk.

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    It depends on the financial stability of the man. A woman can hire a nanny or a house help. Has Regina Daniels or Sade Okoya looked haggard after marriage? A supportive and financially stable partner eases stress. Omotola Jalade is married yet she looks more beautiful even than ladies in their 20s

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    Comparing the life of a single lady with minimal responsibilities vs wife with maximum responsibilities. What I see is a lady who is afraid of growing up and going into the next phase of life. At around 40, she will begin regret when her mates will be sending their kids off to secondary schools or universities. she cannot cheat nature.

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    My comment may be the last but I just have to drop this for whoever wants to read the post later.
    Listen, it will NORMAL for a married woman that is still in the giving birth stage to loose their glow for the first day 10yeats after marriage especially those without mothers or any assistance in taking care of their kids.
    Trust me, you will glow back back when your kids are independent and can do basic things like shower, wash up after using the toilet and eat by themselves.
    See, this kids will fall sick with a temperature that you can even scare the devil itself, you will be the one doing the care.
    I will use myself as an example, I had my kids back to back because I got married in my mid 30’s. No mother or mother in law, my husband take care of the financial aspect of the house but I had kids that were picky eaters, my first can cry from now till kingdom come, you can’t even stay in the saloon without standing up to take care of her 100 times.
    I had to cut my hair, and focused on them.
    But after they gained independence, I started looking very radiant, glowing skin, vacationing and started a business too.
    So it’s just a matter of time my dears.

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    I came late to this post too but thank you very much for this comforting comment. I feel like I’m losing myself being a mum but thank you for giving me this small, tiny hope. It’s really exhausting being a mum with no mum to call and complain to. You just swallow everything yourself, even when you’re overwhelmed with very hyper kids

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    Hugs and kisses @ Fidel. Those of us without mums are going thru a whole lot. Sometimes I feel like locking myself in the bathroom and weep after a particularly hectic day with the kids but we just have to chin up and brave it out. I can’t wait for this phase to pass abeg.

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    I feel the narrative will be different with a kind, supportive and financially capable spouse. Also, the stress in a given location matters too

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    Ladies only marry a GENUINELY kind man with empathy , resources and a generous spirit. ONLY marry a man willing to be supportive husband and father . Avoid those who want a wife and want to give you children to burden

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    Ladies only marry a GENUINELY kind man with empathy , resources and a generous spirit. ONLY marry a man willing to be supportive husband and father . Avoid those who want a wife and want to give you children to burden

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